We all require some level of personal connection in our busy lives. Deep, enriching friendships are the core of what it means to be human, and they can have powerful influence on our emotional well-being, career paths and self-growth.
Finding these friendships and cultivating them though –– now that’s where things can be a bit tricky! It is all too easy to feel that a true friend is few and far between, and sometimes our nerves get the best of us when it comes to making new connections.
This is, of course, entirely natural. But it could also have something to do with your personality and inclination toward the world. Understanding how your Zodiac sign influences your ability to make long-lasting friendships can be the first step to seeking out those cherished companions.
How can you make friends based on your Zodiac sign? Here are some tips.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
As one of the boldest signs in the Zodiac, Aries, you are fearless when it comes to forging friendships. You actively seek out a variety of connections. You thrive when you are able to stand up for those you love, especially if doing so involves some tantalizing risk or defense of value systems.
You can be a fierce –– and, let’s admit it, sometimes demanding –– friend. While it is easy for you to befriend those you take an interest in, maintaining these friendships may prove to be your challenge.
Work on understanding and meeting the needs of your friends once a bond is formed. Give way to the organic unfolding of each connection rather than trying to steer it for yourself (or worse, for your personal gain!) Practice listening more, rather than acting and dominating.
Given that you enjoy a robust network of diverse friendships, let yourself savor this diversity! Meet with friends simply to appreciate those connections. Be content with the present “friend moment.”
As another challenge, try to focus more on honing your current friendships rather than reaching for new ones.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
As an Earth sign, Taurus, you are always eager to offer friendships what many of us crave: stability and grounding. It is in your nature to be a loyal, mindful and exceedingly trustworthy companion, provided you feel safe to be so with a certain individual. You truly enjoy exposing your warm, loving heart to others.
Still, it is easy to be taken advantage of in this respect, especially when it comes to betrayals of trust. We are all hungry for loving spirits. You may find that you can hold grudges easily in this respect, and that it takes a long time for a friendship to find its footing. This is natural. You want to make sure someone is worthy of being in your tribe!
You may also feel as if you are always giving more in a relationship. As such, you may find yourself “playing it safe” by bonding with other Tauruses, or those with similarly open hearts.
When making friends, release your tendency for judgment or your desire to benefit from your friendships, beyond the nourishing gifts they naturally offer (joy, ease, inspiration, etc.).
Work on connecting with the person him/herself, and discard ideas of status or wealth when doing so. This may mean reaching out to friends who have faded from your contacts list. Sometimes making amends with your open heart can be the best way to reignite those connections you value most.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
As a bustling, proactive individual, Gemini, you are accustomed to being the life of the party. Others appreciate your penchant for excitement, thrill and storytelling. You’re always the first to take the plunge, even if that literally means lining up first for that sky-diving adventure. Your quick wit and sparkling eyes easily captivate. Friends flock to you, drawn by your liveliness and intelligence.
It is thus often rare that you actively seek friendships yourself. They often come to you, so what need is there to find them yourself? Remember, however, what you do get from meaningful relationships when they do arise: individuals who can match your wit and even teach you something new.
This time around, why not permit yourself to be the driver? Nurture a connection that arises in your life; even if this connection blooms as a result of your own attractive energy. Give it voice by demonstrating your own endless capacity for loyalty.
Be cautious of your tendency to grow bored with simple friend moments that don’t challenge, ignite, or risk. Work on enjoying mere conversation, a weekend phone call, or a morning walk with your friends.
Don’t scorn superficiality, either. This is often a precursor to deep, thoughtful exploration. And sometimes other smart people are shy about exposing their wit so soon.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
As a characteristic water sign, Cancer, you pride yourself on your ability to plumb the psychic depths: of yourself and others. Your friends admire your intuition, and they may even turn to you for spiritual advice on a regular basis. You also cherish your friendships deeply, viewing loved ones as veritable extensions of your own family.
For this reason, you are generally quite accurate when scoping out a potential friend. Your capacity to read an individual’s energy field enables you to adapt to others’ changing preferences and needs and identify who is likely to offer you what you crave: a circle of friends you can care for. You love bringing joy to these special few within your circle.
Beware, however, of grudges that may impede your ability to truly nourish a potential relationship. Resist the impulse to be hasty, especially with friendships that dazzle you at the outset. Harness the power of your generous spirit by giving what you can to new connections, but be careful of depleting your resources. You know all too well how this can inspire bitterness and severed friendships.
Trust your intuition, too. If your instinct is to befriend someone, speak up, and speak from your heart. The truest connections–those you value most–will emerge in time.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
Given that you’re represented by the lion, Leo, you are naturally vivacious, assertive, and self-knowing. You don’t shy away from social interactions of any kind, especially when these give you a chance to step into the spotlight. You particularly appreciate friendships that provide deep, creative inspiration and cultivate leadership.
As a potent fire sign, you plunge into friendships heart-first. Many admire your capacity to be a loving friend, but some may be intimidated by your need to assert yourself and man the rudder. When making friends, Leo, play to your heart-strength. Let your desire to see your companions succeed take the fore, but be cautious of retreating when your friends become (in your opinion) too successful.
Remember that drama can be a part of every friendship, but that the most nourishing connections must come from a place of mutual understanding.
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
As an earth sign, Virgo, you are deeply familiar with the tangible components of life. You are diligent and attentive to detail, traits that have likely aided you in your path towards professional (or academic) success.
You are an adept communicator, which is an asset in your friendships! In fact, you abhor miscommunication and take every step to clearly articulate your thoughts. Your tendency to feel shy or nervous around strangers–and even close friends–can impede your ability to establish nurturing connections. Sometimes you like to hide this tendency under a blanket of criticism and reserve.
Remember that it’s natural to be anxious when meeting new people. They may be just as nervous as you! As the queen of articulation, state your feelings early on in a friendship. A simple “to be honest, I’m a bit nervous” can work wonders, break the ice, and ease conversation.
When you do feel fear kicking in, practice deep breathing. You are deep-rooted as an earth sign, so put your feet on the ground and find comfort in your material surroundings. Confidence in connection is bound to follow.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
You are an air sign, Libra, although you are represented by the scale––an icon of balance. While you can flit from social gathering to social gathering, you are known for your capacity to deliver sound advice. You enjoy deep discussions and debates with your close friends, provided these don’t get too heated.
You also value companionship above nearly every other sign in the Zodiac. Without inspiring, long-term, even attractive connections, you may grow irritable and isolated. Recognize your need for relationship and establish a daily practice for meeting that need.
When making friends, use your gift for communication. You don’t have to box yourself into that familiar role of advice-giver, either. Share your wisdom but make it clear that you crave reciprocity and devotion.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
You are accustomed to being misunderstood, Scorpio, given your passionate, private nature. In fact, many often mistake you for a fire sign due to your powerful, perceptive emotions. You are a water sign, which explains your capacity to feel things deeply and move fluidly between the cerebral and the physical.
It also explains your appreciation for a very small, close-knit circle of friends. You thrive with one-on-one connections, especially if these enable you to display your unwavering loyalty, sensitivity, and generosity. You are known for giving everything, and more, to friendships you truly value.
Making friends can be an incredible challenge for you, given your difficulty in opening up to those around you. Some may see you as moody or scornful in this respect––or even at times, manipulative!
Give yourself a leg up here: identify your needs for friendship before you reach out to someone, and work on communicating these at the outset. Trust in your ability to be warm and winning, and relax. You don’t have to continue a friendship that doesn’t meet your needs.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
As the final fire sign in the Zodiac, Sagittarius, you thirst for knowledge on a large-scale. You are never one to turn down an adventure, especially one likely to instruct. While questing, you never fail to garner multiple connections, and you find that many appreciate your insatiability for journeying.
You relish encounters with diverse individuals, and your friend group likely consists of people from all kinds of backgrounds––often verging on the eccentric (like yourself!) These friends welcome your “go with the flow” attitude and giving nature, but many may fail to get truly close to you. Closeness may feel like a threat, so you often struggle to maintain friendships with intimate, emotional connection.
Let your ease and optimism in life guide you into friendships. This has worked in the past, and there’s no reason it can’t work now. Be careful, however, of appearing too casual with new connections. This can come across as indifference, or worse, impatience. Seek out individuals with a similar love for knowledge.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
As the final Zodiac earth sign, Capricorn, you have an aptitude for staying grounded in the material and traversing great emotional heights. You appreciate a path, and you are always diligent at following it, especially when it comes to career pursuits, but you are not afraid of being playful!
Your friends have likely recognized that it takes time to break past your occasional reserve. Once someone does so, however, they discover your true capacity for love, generosity, and warmth. In fact, many may say that you are the most trustworthy of the Zodiac signs when it comes to friendships. You also enjoy taking the role of the instructive friend, advising your friends as a parent would a child.
When making friends, work consciously to display your inner resources of love and generosity. Be cautious of coming across as too didactic, especially when assessing character. Display your willingness for loyalty from the outset and friends will notice.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
Aquarius, you are the final air sign in the Zodiac. You often consider yourself to be an advocate for the people, challenging social norms and authority figures in the name of change and progress. You care deeply about what is right, but you don’t believe in “normal.”
As such, you are often deemed the least judgmental of the entire Zodiac, and you cultivate a wide, diverse circle of friends. In friendships, you are communicative and intellectual, and it’s easier for you to be emotionally close to someone who can match your smarts. For this reason, you can easily come across as aloof in relationships, and if someone comes to you for emotional aid, you may surprise them by creating distance.
Keep this in mind as you go about making friends. Seek out connections that enable your interest in social change, but set the precedent for mutual engagement at the outset. People are likely to shy away from individuals who seem self-centered, and your aloofness can come across that way if you aren’t careful.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
You are the final sign of the Zodiac, Pisces, and many say that in this role you reflect everything all of the other signs have learned in their individual journeys. That’s quite a statement, but it may be true: You are, after all, one of the most compassionate and intuitive signs of the wheel.
You love exploring fantastical realms, and navigating the boundaries between illusion and reality. As a friend, you are optimistic, immensely kind, and empathetic. In fact, you often approach connections without bias or judgment, and you are rarely capable of malice. You may feel that everybody likes you, and this is often true!
It’s easy for you to make connections for this reason; maintaining them is the challenge. Some friends may complain of your flakiness, while others may not be able to support you in moments of insecurity and shame (which, unfortunately, arise all too often for you.) Practice expressing vulnerability with new connections earlier, and work on creating systems of mutual support with those you love.
